tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post6313899029811795764..comments2023-10-12T01:45:11.356-07:00Comments on BRAZENLILLY: This little piggy went...to a specialist.Brazenlillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02959608921200375682noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-92158659516839884672009-05-13T14:50:00.000-07:002009-05-13T14:50:00.000-07:00Jen-
I stumbled across your blog...via the Greers...Jen-<br /><br />I stumbled across your blog...via the Greers. So I just thought that I would say hi. It has been way to long since we have communicated. I hope things are going well. Shoot me an e-mail sometime...I'm sure Kristi (endersby) would love to hear from you. bryan@antiochokc.orgBryan Champnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-81016036868263768892009-05-13T12:20:00.000-07:002009-05-13T12:20:00.000-07:00Hi fellow blogger Jenn!
My second son has this sa...Hi fellow blogger Jenn!<br /><br />My second son has this same sort of connected toes too. I never even thought about it being a birth defect - I just thought he had funky toes. But I appreciate your thoughts on how you handled the situation.<br /><br />Oh and I slightly exaggerated about how often I post. I used to be much better, but I've slacked a lot in the past few years. You are much more dilligent than I am. <br /><br />I'm so glad to meet a new blogging friend!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02543591269872142920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-62930469949241873722009-05-12T22:44:00.000-07:002009-05-12T22:44:00.000-07:00Oh, I can relate so much. Jafta has had a couple ...Oh, I can relate so much. Jafta has had a couple random anomolies that I have fretted about - and yes, junior high always seems to be a big part in the decision making! Like Dione said, it's so hard to know when to protect.Kristen Howertonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11055131545156196477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-49273139091604233502009-05-12T20:44:00.000-07:002009-05-12T20:44:00.000-07:00inspirational! your post captures well the delica...inspirational! your post captures well the delicate balance between minimizing conflict in our children's lives, and promoting strength and resilience. it's a fine line and you've defined the boundaries well. <br /><br />it also reminds me of psalms 139:14:<br />"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."<br /><br />but for me the struggle is in not projecting my on insecurities about my children's "uniqueness" onto them or others.Dionne Sincirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192899287635535412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-36118013827203811632009-05-12T18:26:00.000-07:002009-05-12T18:26:00.000-07:00Okay, I have to tell on Bapaw. He thought both fee...Okay, I have to tell on Bapaw. He thought both feet in the photo belonged to Syd. He said, "I thought the connected toes were on the outside of her foot!" He also wondered why the other foot was bigger! <br />JoJoJo B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00318881295545692237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-48977033338234664662009-05-12T14:15:00.000-07:002009-05-12T14:15:00.000-07:00Great post Jen. I never fault a parent for giving...Great post Jen. I never fault a parent for giving their child every possible advantage in life, and when you temper that with the wisdom of God and knowledge of doctors, well, you've got it made. Bonus? People already love that kid for who she is. Nothing can change that. In fact, I think the "special" things about each of us make us truly unique. I had the hairest arms in the world growing up. Seriously, don't even know how that happened. But at that time there was nothing to really do about it (and it wasn't hindering my development or anything) so my parents never made a big deal about it. I remember in kindergarten going out to play on recess at a Christian school I was new to since moving up from California. All the grades were there. As I walked across the little footbridge an older boy rudely pointed out my "specialness" in a disgusted way. I stopped, looked him right in the eye, and said, "Why does it bother YOU so much? It doesn't bother ME." I continued to verbally back him into a corner until he gave up. The was the last I heard of that! I can thank my parents and God for that kind of confidence, even though I'm sure at times they were sad/worried for me being "different". I'm so glad Syd's got parents like you and a community of friends/family around her. She's gonna be just great! (Except I do have something funny to add: The pic at the top of your blog. That's Syd's foot AND Carson's foot right?)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15115669165556435265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-50265776284407285342009-05-12T14:04:00.000-07:002009-05-12T14:04:00.000-07:00I want to echo the other comments - beautiful post...I want to echo the other comments - beautiful post, very thoughtfully written, and very, very thoughtful & wise mommy. :) Can I ask what books you are reading about self-esteem? With a little girl on the way in a few months, I would love some advice! Thanks!Angiehttp://www.gregandangie.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-36962523750789689662009-05-12T13:28:00.000-07:002009-05-12T13:28:00.000-07:00Jen, this is such a great post. I think at some po...Jen, this is such a great post. I think at some point every parent has to wrestle with this issue--when/where/how do I smooth the way and conversely, how do I strengthen them so that they can handle it when the way isn't smooth. We tackled that (the first time...but not nearly the last time for sure!) when we learned that Alexa's teeth didn't have full enamel. They've developed chips, cracks and browning, and I had a hard time knowing that she would be going to school like that. But we crossed the very bridge you are on the cusp of, and it was so good for us as parents. As a result, she is fine and has handled the questions like a champ. She does talk about when she will have white teeth like everyone else and sometimes even prays for her big girl teeth to be white, but I love her take-it-in-stride attitude. And she's not a take-it-in-stride kind of girl usually! Anyway, all that to say, it's so good to hear others wrestle with this concept and it reminds me that perspective is so much bigger than circumstance! Thanks.Lisa Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13613805284802360702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-52710337768566223992009-05-12T11:03:00.000-07:002009-05-12T11:03:00.000-07:00Jen - Frank's third and fourth toe are stuck toget...Jen - Frank's third and fourth toe are stuck together also and it is hereditary in his family. That was one of the first things I checked when Gianna was born. I think it is easier for a boy to handle than a girl. Kids can be mean and Jr. High is hard. God will show you what to do.Jewelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650974228637127567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-35467039796453666802009-05-12T10:47:00.000-07:002009-05-12T10:47:00.000-07:00i know you are such a loving a nurturing mom that ...i know you are such a loving a nurturing mom that sydney will always have such great confidence in who she is as your daughter and a daughter of the King. <br />the right decisions will come at the right time and little baby bird will be beautiful inside & out no matter what!! :)nabzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01406138413319964282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-24026402472140077572009-05-12T07:56:00.000-07:002009-05-12T07:56:00.000-07:00She is so blessed to have such a thoughtful loving...She is so blessed to have such a thoughtful loving mother. <br />I don't think following medical advice is contradictory to loving her for exactly how she is. While it seems cosmetic it is also very much not - especially when her walking is concerned. In time, the doctors will advise you again and you will know just what to do and I just know she will love you for whatever choice you make. :)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02810332177393636400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-65276600030602833182009-05-11T17:31:00.000-07:002009-05-11T17:31:00.000-07:00You're an amazing mother! There can be no doubt in...You're an amazing mother! There can be no doubt in anyone's mind that you have her best interest at heart. You won't have to "fret one bit" because you will make the best decision for her regardless.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10710652729810528064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-58616174243340867022009-05-11T17:26:00.000-07:002009-05-11T17:26:00.000-07:00A beautiful post Jen. I agree with Stephanie - it...A beautiful post Jen. I agree with Stephanie - it must have been difficult to put together. I agree with all that you said - and especially liked what you said about "not fretting one bit" if the doctor can't change anything. Your precious girl is beautiful - fearfully and wonderfully made. And no matter what happens with her extra toe - I have no doubt that Sydney will grow up know how much she is loved by God - and by her family!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11995033207629139160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-30600059029586190412009-05-11T16:24:00.000-07:002009-05-11T16:24:00.000-07:00Sydney girl! Perfect in every way. :) I love her...Sydney girl! Perfect in every way. :) I love her smile. I love her big eyes. I love her coyness. I love her observant nature. I love her petite frame. I LOVE her red hair! She's one gorgeous girl, that's for sure, no matter how many toes she has next year. The best part for me, is knowing she will never doubt her worth in Jesus' eyes, her parents' eyes or ours. You and Trent are some fantastic parents (and godparents) and we love you! <br /><br />Jen - thanks for what I assume must have been a kind of hard post to formulate. It's one of the things I love so much about you!Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03292669801667749936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24266137.post-89236263637848582482009-05-11T16:06:00.000-07:002009-05-11T16:06:00.000-07:00My brother would be so happy to see that picture, ...My brother would be so happy to see that picture, not cause he's weird about feet, but because he has "special toes", too! No 6th toe (she's just SUPERspecial), but his third and fourth toes on both feet are fused. Mom's doctor said the same thing: surgery, grafting, pain in the patootie to separate, so they didn't, and he's been just fine (other than a strong like for first person shooter video gaming, but I don't think that's related). <br /><br />Funny thing: he thought *I* was the weird one for *not* having webbed toes for a long time when we were kids. And sadly, no, he does not swim any faster. :)Aj Schwanzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09038745884456450797noreply@blogger.com